INFP:
I most tend to appreciate directing styles in certain situations and
informing styles in others--home versus work, for example. I like it when
people say what they mean and mean what they say when the time calls for
it, and I appreciate having information given to me in an informing style
when the topic is an opinion or choice, like if it is a request.
INFJ:
Well, extra information is OK if something is a request (we can
combine our styles and say, 'Wow, this is heavy! Could you give me a
hand?' or 'There's plenty of food in the dish -- would you like some
more?"). But I hate it when I'm given information and I don't know if
a request has been made -- and that's what happens, sometimes, with the
informing style. I feel as if I'm supposed to be a mind-reader.
Sometimes I know what's implied, sometimes I don't -- and sometimes I
don't even realise that there IS an implication.
INFP:
I have problems in work situations when people give requests in
informing style when the response expected is not based on a choice
(example: "you might want to think about doing xyz" when the
person really means "do x or else!").
INFJ:
But 'You might want to think about this' is fairly directive,
though. It's a sort of diplomatic way of saying 'do it or else', particularly if
the person is a boss -- at least it's obvious what they mean. An
informing style would be more like 'This needs to be done'.
INFP:
I don't like to be around people who bark out orders either, under
any circumstance, or have little negotiating skills when dealing with
people.
INFJ:
Well no, nor do I. But at least you know where you stand. If someone
barks out orders I would normally refuse on principle to do what I was
asked... but then my style is directive so I have no problems
understanding an apparent order as being a way of communicating that I
have a choice.
